2 Common Reasons Relationships End……

Hello Everyone:

Did you know there are two common reasons many relationships  end before the affair recovery process is completed?

The first is because the intense anger and deep hurt block  your ability to break free and move forward.

And this second reason may surprise you.

Recently we surveyed 3000 individuals who were injured or  involved in an affair. From that survey,  we divided the participants into four groups.
Females       injured by an affair
Males           injured by an affair
Females      who cheated
Males           who cheated

After analyzing the data, there was one problem that  was common to injured males and females that was so significant I couldn’t ignore  discussing it today.

In fact, Dr. Gunzburg has dedicated a very large section of his  program to solving it..

But before I share what that one problem is, let me explain  the second reason many relationships end even when both individuals want it to  survive.

After an affair, the intensity of the problems in the  relationship looks like a mountain too high to climb.

First you have the personal devastation and emotional trials  of the injured; second you have the emotions from the cheating spouse; thirdly  you have the cracks in the relationship; and fourth you may have the other  person lingering in the shadows.

These problems compound on top of each other and the  relationship crumbles because…

Neither of You Has a Clue Where to Start

Most couples fail to understand that healing their  relationship after an affair isn’t only about doing and saying the right  things. What’s critically important is  that we do and say the right things… in the correct order.

As we’ve shared in the past, Dr. Gunzburg’s program How to Survive an Affair isn’t a book. It’s  a healing system.

While most books, tapes or audio programs discuss the  realities of what an affair does to a relationship, Dr. Gunzburg provides advice,  exercises and steps to follow (in the proper order) while you move through the  3 phases of healing.

For example, after you overcome the intense emotions and  start to feel normal again through the first phase of healing, the second phase  of healing teaches you how to talk again.

If you can’t talk to your partner, you can’t rebuild your  relationship. Emotions are very touchy.

You might feel incredibly angry at your partner and want to  blow up, or you may try and rationalize the affair or judge the cheater. While these feelings are natural, how you  express them is going to be important.

You certainly don’t want to make matters worse.

That’s why there are four minefields (in Section 5) Dr.  Gunzburg coaches you to avoid to keep your relationship from being further  damaged.

Once you understand how to navigate around those minefields  you’ll be ready to address one of the single most important components of the  healing process.

Seeing Through the Eyes of Your Partner

There is one thing more important than expressing how  much the cheater has hurt you.

What’s more valuable is when the cheating partner fully understands how much they’ve hurt you. But this  process is extremely tricky.

Sometimes it is hard to distinguish between what we think  our partner needs and what they actually need. That is why Dr. Gunzburg  provides a step-by-step exercise for living in your partner’s shoes.

When followed the results can be a true and heartfelt  apology.

Read just a few stories we gather every day from over 20,000  couples who’ve used Dr. Gunzburg’s program.

“Dr. Gunzburg, your program is  practical and non-judgmental. You  recognize that everyone responds differently to an affair. What really helped me was first working on  myself to deal with the overwhelming emotions and then deal with the issues  with my partner. It also allowed me to  step away from the affair and see my partner’s pain and suffering (guilt and  shame). I realized that we are both  human. In this way I could learn to  trust and forgive.”

Jeanne, N.C.

Access to this wonderful Dr Gunzburg resouce can be had by clicking the link below.

Saving Your Marriage

It’s never too late for a new beginning.

Larry

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