Common Excuses For The Extra-Marital Affair.
I was talking to a friend recently whose husband had cheated on her. Through her tears and frustration, she said something that stung me.
She said that when she found out, her husband turned things around and blamed her.
Yup, you read that correctly. After he had cheated, he had actually blamed her for something that he had done. Which is what brings me to today’s message. I wanted to write, encourage and empower you today.
I wanted to remind you that cheating is never the victim’s fault.
It’s just a way for a cheater to feel better about things.
So here are a few common excuses that you may hear for cheating, and what the truth behind it really is.
“The way you have treated me lately is the reason I was cheating on you.”
Translation: We have been fighting lately and instead of talking to you about it, I took the easy way out and fooled around on you. Now I feel really guilty and can’t stand it so I am taking the easy way out again and blaming you.
“I did it because I thought you were cheating on me.”
Translation: I saw a phone number on your cell phone that I did not recognize, so I started to assume things. Instead of asking you about it, my jealousy and frustration got the best of me. I jumped to a conclusion and slept with someone to hurt you, before you hurt me.
“You don’t love me like you used to.”
Translation: I don’t love you like I used to. We have been so busy with our lives that we have neglected nurturing our marriage. Instead of working on things, I sought out comfort from someone else instead.
These three common excuses are just that – excuses. There is never an excuse good enough to justify cheating on the one you love. I know of no other pain worse than hearing that the person you love, was in bed with someone else.
It is not your fault. No matter what is said or done, you do not control the actions of someone else.
Your spouse has the ability to think and make decisions, and that is something that you need to keep in mind.
As I sat with my friend, she kept saying how she should have done this or she should have done that differently.
She said maybe she should have gone to that football game with him that one time, or maybe she should have shut her mouth during that one argument.
As I sat listening with a heavy heart, I kept wishing that I could have helped her before, and while this was going on. I wished that there was something I could have done.
Which is what brings me back to you and what I can do to help.
If you are feeling like something may be going on in your marriage that does not seem right, then you need to do something about it.
If you want help to bust that cheater and to deal with it, then all you need to do is take one little step help will be on the way.. to restoring your marriage.
There is little I can do for my friend, but there is something I can still do for you.
For Your Marriage Success,